Category Archives: Marriage

>A New Holiday Tradition

>As many of you know, earlier this year I got married. When I got married, I had never met my husband’s family and I had never really considered the implications that this union would have on the holiday season. Anyone who knows me knows that no holiday is ever simple. This is probably true for most people, but I have a blended family and that means that I have to work together with all the many members of our different family groups to try and make sure everyone feels that they had the best holiday possible. Getting married added a whole lot more family.

One of the things that has made the holidays doable for me has been the fact that the vast majority of my family lives in Central Florida like me. I can reach the majority of my family in any number of directions in about an hour. My husband is the only member of his family who lives here and that has changed things up a bit. This year, for the first Christmas ever, I’ll be away for Christmas. Can we say road trip?

I’m nervous for a number of reasons including and not limited to:

  • New people that I have to like. When I was married before my husband had a grand total of ONE family member. This is a lot of pressure.
  • Traveling with a baby who is just over two months old. I’m not sure how to make this work without ruining his sleep schedule.
  • Introducing my husband to my father. My dad and my grandparents live in North Florida so we get to visit them too, but my father has never met anyone that I dated.
  • Integrating into the previously mentioned new family. My husband apparently told his family I would help with the cooking. In my family, despite the fact that I am thirty years old, I’m kind of a junior member. By the time I arrive everything is finished and if I do bring anything it’s either dessert or drinks. They have the whole routine down and they’ve been doing it since I was a baby, if not before then.

I’m sure we will figure it all out, but right now it’s kind of in the planning stages.

    >What a difference a few weeks can make.

    >As some of you may have noticed, I have been blogging less than normal lately. I tossed in a restaurant review I had been saving for this very reason and I think I tossed up a cat story, but that’s been it.

    There has been so much going on that it feels like it’s all stuck in a tube and I haven’t figured out a way to clear the word clog yet. I suppose I’ll start with the biggest and possibly most surprising thing.

    I got married. (SURPRISE!)

    On March 12th, James and I got married in a small and slightly hysterical ceremony for two. We eloped, kind of. I told my family because they hate surprises and they get their feelings hurt sometimes. James didn’t really tell people until a few days ago. I was surprised because I have a huge family and things like this don’t really stay quiet for long, but I don’t know his family yet so maybe that’s just how they are.

    The person who performed the ceremony was Spanish speaking and he had one of the most hysterical accents I have ever heard. I don’t know why, but I think it was because he was trying to be so earnest and sincere. The look on his face was just so hopeful and then he said “repeat after me.” I was trying so hard not to giggle. It doesn’t help that my left ear has 60% hearing loss, so repeating after him was really hard. I possibly should have studied prior to showing up, but I wasn’t sure what vows he would use.

    We only had one true mishap during the ceremony. Apparently, I was nervous and my hands swelled. When he attempted to put on the wedding band it didn’t really want to go on. I helped him out and we finished the ceremony without any further trouble.

    We had lunch at Subway afterward, which was awesome because I was starving and they had Sun Chips. I love that they have tons of veggies to put on their sandwiches, so it’s like having a salad with some bread. We followed that up by going with Sadia, Jeff, and my brother Cameron to the Hard Rock in Orlando for dinner and to see Gabriel Iglesias. Gabriel Iglesias was hysterical. I think what I like about him the most is that he’s really funny, but he’s not mean. Some comedians seem to get off on being cruel, but Gabriel isn’t like that. He tells these really funny stories and loves chocolate cake. How can you not like this guy?

    I still have my apartment and we basically take turns at each others house, but my lease ends in about a month. I’ll be moving out of Tampa and into James’ house. I’ll admit, I’m a little freaked out. We’ll have to take this one step at a time.