I Ruffle Feathers.

I’ll be honest. I piss people off.

I know I do. I’m what my son calls a geek/nerd. I love technology. I am anti-social. I like Star Trek, Star Wars, star things of all varieties, Hobbits, Elves, Orcs, Fantasy, and even what my husband calls “funny talkin’ British” doctors.

I used to think I was conservative, but I was wrong. I ain’t even close. (I’m so not conservative that I had to use the word “ain’t” to tell you that.) I am an unapologetic Obama lover/supporter. I believe that he believes the same things that I do.

I’ve said all this because in my family this stuff is weird and not acceptable. Recently, it has come to my brain through a series of events and a snide comment from a family member that my family NEEDS me. They need me to be open, honest, and vocal about what I believe. When they are blatantly homophobic I have no choice but to educate them. In the future there will be homosexual members of our family and they will need love and support. They do not need hateful comments about pedophilia and going to Hell.

I’ve been quiet about it in the past because I didn’t want to make waves. However, it might have been cowardice. I have never seen such severe homophobia in the world as I do with my own family. I doubt that the majority of my family has ever had a close friend who was gay. Here’s what I want them to know:

  • You do not choose to be gay. I didn’t choose to be straight.
  • Being gay is not a perversion.
  • Homosexuals are not pedophiles seeking to rape your boys.
  • Homosexuality is actually seen in nature all the time. (Visit the Giraffes at Busch Gardens. They are all boys. Very horny boy giraffes.)
  • Homosexuals do not recruit. It isn’t a club. You don’t get points.

For more myths about homosexuality you can visit the Southern Family Law Center, Ya’ll.

If you need help or support because you are gay, lesbian, bisexual, or trangendered please remember that helps is out there. I love you. You are loved and things will get better.

About Courtney

32 and divorced. I have three children and I'm working my way through everything.

Posted on July 26, 2012, in Uncategorized. Bookmark the permalink. 2 Comments.

  1. Good for you for standing up for yourself and speaking out about the things you care about. There’s nothing at all wrong with that, nor should anyone ever make you feel like it’s the wrong thing to do. As geeks, we come from a well-read, well-reasoned place, and can offer a lot of insight to those willing to listen. Truly, the geeks shall inherit the Earth.

    That said, you’ve also never pissed me off. As an openly bisexual woman, I applaud your courage to face your family and be more open. I can only hope they’re ready to listen.

    • This whole situation is just so messed up. There is someone who is going to need all the help they can get soon and I just want the family to be prepared. I cannot imagine not loving someone anymore because they were gay. I mean, the idea there is they will accept anything but gay. Be a murderer before you’re gay.

      I just want to start a dialogue. Even if they get ugly, it’s in their brains.

      I don’t know if I believe in God, but I don’t think it really matters. I was told that God is love. The whole New Testament centers around a dude who was filled with love that he did his damnedest to heal and feed everyone he came in contact with. He never ever railed against a person. He accepted people the way they were. That is a good message and that’s the type of person I want to be. I don’t consider myself a Christian, but it bothers me when people who do so readily through out the New Testament to be hateful and then eat bacon. SERIOUSLY.

      Also, although I am not a lesbian or bisexual I have been accused of it all my life by my mother and I am sure she’s not kept that to herself. If I was a Lesbian I would have been out YEARS ago. I have accepted myself for who I am. I really like the person who I am most of the time and I try not to hide.

      I only stopped being a blatant homophobe when my best friend came out to my inn high school. It was agony. I loved her with my whole heart. I know God would never have wanted me to hate her. She changed my whole life!

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